Attitude is just one of the keys....

     Have you ever wondered how some people can draw you in while others do nothing for you?  Well, a little secret to getting people to actually want to be around you is your ATTITUDE!  If you're a rather laid back individual then you are going to incorporate others to socialize with you as they feel no sort of uneasiness; they can feel free to talk without any sort of repercussions.  However, if you are that "grouchy", inept person, then there will be a 75 percent chance you'll have plenty of free time on your hands.  Remember, attitude is just one of the keys to life, and its a rather important one.
     There are attitudes galore to fit every human in this lifetime.  Some, to be quite honest, are far less desirable than others.  Take for instance a person you may have never met before, but without knowing the true individual or their circumstances you base them on that instant meeting of your own particular "opinion".  Before I go any further, I do not have any problem with a person and their opinions; however, be it known that since I don't "diss" your opinion, I only ask the same in return.  Now, as I was saying, judging a person for that minute second, is not fair to the individual who may just be having a very difficult day.  Give them a few minutes, if possible, and see if they relax a little bit, if they do then they aren't necessarily that person you may have thought initially.  Just make sure you realize that if you stick to that initial judgement or opinion and do not give that person another chance then you are sending out your own attitude.
     People of all walks of life have bad days and good days.  It is important to always remember that as no one in this life is perfect (except for babies as they have not undertaken alot of societys issues).  As I said, everyone has a bad day; however, it is up to YOU to decide whether to carry it on and affect those who are around.  Personally, I could have a very bad day, but I do try very hard to not branch it out to others.  To be honest, there are some people that no matter how hard you try to keep from wanting to say something, they will just bring it out and all you can do is hope that you can bite your tongue hard enough to prevent an avalanche of "all hell is going to break loose if they don't shut their mouths".  By all personal knowledge, it is HARD, but attitude restraint can be had, if you are willing to try.  If not, then well, the best advice to bystanders is: back way up because it might get ugly.  Bad days equal some not so good attitudes; yet, if you can learn to tell yourself, "I'm not going to let something or someone ruin my day" it will make overcoming those hard days easier as time continues.
     Everyone, or most, love being around happy people.  They are the infectious type, spreading their good old fashioned laughter to anyone who is around.  These people could be your good friends, family, co-workers, doctors, nurses, employees at businesses where you shop, strangers, and the list goes on.  I have gotten little "kicks" out of people while in the stores and we start talking about how awesome it is that it takes us fifteen minutes to find something in an aisle we've been in and its on the middle shelf in between two things you never would of guessed.  These people I have encountered are happy people and you can feel it.  If you don't know what I am talking about by "feeling" their happiness, you may not be opening yourself up to it-- too focused on what you're doing and just "zoom" by that person to acknowledge them,  you are just having a difficult day yourself, or a few other reasons.  Trust me though when I say, you can feel someone elses happiness spread to you, it's like when people say or ask "can you feel the love", most generally you can, unless its pure sarcasm, even then that can give you a little chuckle. 
     People who give me a chuckle or even a big laugh receive a big thumbs up from me.  Life is difficult enough without having no laughter.  I appreciate a person who is truly happy and I can appreciate someone who is the cranky type.  However, I am bound to surround myself with more positive attitude people than I am one who is deeply negative.  I can understand some who are the less than a happy person, if given the opportunity.  Its important to note, that even if you are around someone who has the desire to try to stay grouchy for whatever reason, that you can indeed see them crack a smile, if you, too, are persistent.  Albeit, they make think you've "lost it" if you keep laughing and are trying to breathe and talk or explain at the same time, that you're just in a good mood and want to share :)  Happy sharing is a good thing, while cranky not so much.
     Try to remember attitude is just one of the keys to life and that everyone experiences both bad and good days, its just up to you to choose which one to keep as well as spread.  Whichever you choose is your decision; however, realize there can either be good or bad ramifications. 
     I wish you all the positive attitudes your life can handle and may many be filled with happiness and infectious laughter :) Peace <3
  

Living life as we make it...

     Living life as we make it comes down to a simple choice--do you want to enjoy it to its fullest or do you want to find reasons to find a negative point in every aspect of your life.  My decision came early in life, when I chose to allow myself to be free and be me, not what others desired to be "the right and only way".  As with most people, who were not part of a clique in school, I didn't necessarily fit in, but I also didn't care.  Some teenagers desire to "fit in" supersedes their own desires of being happy as long as they can be part of the in-crowd.  What they don't understand is you can be friends with any of those people....the in-crowd, the medium crowd, and the picked on group.  If they choose to acknowledge you, that is just one more friend they've made; however, if you get blown off, don't worry about it...life is too short to worry about whether or not someone will be your friend or not.  The older you get the more you will begin to realize this aspect of life.  Remember the main desire for yourself should be your own personal happiness during these times, as it will be fundamental in your adult life.
     Growing up carefree and not so rich in the monetary way was one of the best things that could have ever happened to me.  My parents raised my siblings and me to know that hard work, determination, love, family, and humor were the things in life that would get you through in the darkest and hardest of times.  No matter what was going on there was this feeling of being carefree even when others would deem it not to be safe.  "You only live once" and "hard work paired with determination pays off in the end", were sayings that were repeated quite often.  That and "if they have money, then no we aren't related to them", which is still said to this day when people inquire whether we are connected in some way to another family with the same surname.  Some people are surprised by the comment and others laugh right along with us.  With our large family and extended family, we all learned to laugh, not only during the best of times, but the worst or difficult times.  Humor and laughter can get you far into this world, provided it is not mean or negative towards another person or thing.  The latter is only going to come back at you two-fold.  However, if you are having just plain, good, old fashioned fun--laughter can raise you up to a natural high.  With having humor and the ability to have laughing in your life, you can face many obstacles.  Whether you are facing a down week for whatever reason to that of a medical cause, you can find ways to not only ease your own fears but those who surround you.  Dealing with a severe chronic illness with humor makes those around me feel a bit more relaxed and in turn makes me even happier. 
     So, as you can see, even though I jumped several years from teenager, youth, and adulthood, I have made it one of my ultimate life aspects to remember all the things that were taught in our family.  Being positive and happy is at the top of my list, followed by my sense of humor (which is even infectious towards my general practioner and specialists--they love it too), is something that carries me through the bad days--that and the love as well as support of my family and friends.  Without these things that were instilled in me, which were carried over into my own children, life wouldn't look so wonderous on the gloomiest days.  Remember to always be yourself and try to find any positive thing that you see or hear to make it your life a little (or lot) better of day. Peace <3